A bond that lasts forever.
Mothers love their children from the moment they are born forward. Unconditionally and unwaveringly. Moms of autistic kids are no different. We love our children, worry about them, and want only happiness, health and a good life for them, just as any mom does.
But when you are faced with a child who will be dependent for the rest of his life – first on you and then on others when you’re no longer on this Earth – your way of living changes and what you do, plan and decide is affected by wanting to do as much as you can to ensure your child’s comfort in the future.
It’s different with fully-functioning children.
Having a daughter who does not face any kind of challenge whatsoever, I can tell you that there is a world of difference in the stress level you experience as a parent. You don’t have to plan much beyond college and your child’s marriage.
When those two things happen you can pretty much hang up the “mommy” apron and go on to doing other things. Perhaps things that you put off so that you could be a full-time mom, like I did. There’s the freedom to do so many things if you so choose.
There comes that time.
When your autistic son is past twenty years old, is coming out the other end of the tunnel from the teenage years, and is past the days of really needing to see mom’s face every morning, it is time to take an honest look at your situation.
For me, it’s now the time to get out of the house, leave working on the computer in my home office behind, and get back into the work place. That will be an enormous change in this household – which is what I want and feel strongly that it is what my son needs as well.
Parents don’t live forever.
The odds are that my son will outlive both myself and my husband, which means there will need to be two things in place for Corbin: 1) sufficient funds for his care and 2) good help in the way of caretakers. Both of these things need to be done during our lifetime, and both will be all the easier to obtain given the big change I mentioned above.
I’m thinking that this will be a refreshing change. No, I don’t have on rose-colored glasses, I know it won’t always be smooth sailing. But that’s OK. What I’m doing now and have been doing for the past couple of decades has not been easy. In fact I could tell you some stories that might you wonder how I got through this time at all. But I did. And that’s a big part of why I believe that entering the workplace will be a positive thing for me.
There is the happiness factor here as well. I have been in a situation that’s been unhappy for me personally, and that hasn’t been easy either.
Staying in shape.
Once again, proper exercise and diet play a part in how this all comes about. I’m literally stronger than ever. I use heavier free weights than I did in my twenties and I have super-endurance.
This Fall I added a multiple vitamin and amino acid supplements to my daily diet and I can tell you that the difference far exceeds the more youthful complexion that I am seeing every day. I feel great. And, so far this Season, I’ve been around family members who have had colds/flu and I remained healthy. With the exception of feeling a little off one day, which was nothing compared to what everyone else had, I have not caught any bugs. That’s a first for me. I was always the one who caught every cold that was going around. So, my wellness routine is working.
Be open. Be flexible.
That’s what it takes to accomplish all of this. Not everything has gone smoothly and I am sure that in the future there will be plenty of things to work around. But that’s fine. As long as I’m at a job I enjoy, am able to continue pursuing acting/modeling when I’m not working, and see that my son is taken care of by caring, competent people, I’ll consider myself a tremendous success story.
I’ll be posting more video content. Talking about autism, my acting and modeling career goals. All of it. Look for them soon.